At the Fourth Annual Latin American Bloggers’ Conference, I saw that our group feels much sympathy for the social disparity they see. While no one writes exclusively on this topic, from time to time most touch on it.
However, these posts are not widely read. Many bloggers told me that humorous reporting and venting about the frustrations of day to day life in Mexico are the best received articles. Often readers shy away from reading about those we cannot relate to.
But maybe today will be different? I want to tell you about someone…
Doña Victoria looks after my 94 year old mother-in-law (Doña Bertha). Her excellent care allows Jorge’s mom to remain in her home and not have to move in with us or to an elder facility. Our family goes about our daily lives, knowing that our matriarch is comfortable, clean and loved. Yes, loved…
Not only does Doña Victoria make our lives easier, she is the rock that her family depends on. She has six children, lots of grandchildren and umpteen other assorted relatives. Much of her daily effort involves helping them – last week she found an after-school job for a grandson, some used clothing for a new baby; by phone she counseled her son through a marital scrap, and she organized a novena for Doña Bertha and the other elderly ladies in the neighborhood.
I know Doña Victoria believes there is not a problem on earth that can’t be resolved through hard work. Another thing she did last week… My sister-in-law had prepared the traditional pit-roasted Mucbil pollo for our Day of the Dead meal. But the man she hired to unearth the big tamale pies didn’t show up. To make matters worse, it had started to rain and the food would soon get wet! Outside went Doña Victoria; she grabbed the shovel and started digging. Believe me… it was pretty obvious she was well acquainted with that tool! She dug into that smoky underground oven and out came our lunch.
I’ve had the honor of knowing many women like Doña Victoria. I have tried to be as good to them as they are to me… They have enriched my life in untold ways.
Most of us have people helping us in our homes. You don’t need Spanish to show small kindnesses like – providing them with something to eat and a cool drink, sending home a few groceries, offering a little cash when you know there’s a family emergency… A relationship will evolve because of your actions. As Doña Victoria says, “¿Que mas?” There’s more than meets the eye in Yucatán…
*** You can read the story of Doña Victoria and Hurricane Gilberto by clicking here.
Photos: Doña Victoria and Doña Bertha at Christmas last year , weilding the shovel , Mucbil pollos coming from the pit . My daughter enjoying hers