By the time we reach “a certain age” we’ve had many different friendships. Some people have been in our lives for a long, long time – and because we’ve shared so much with them, they have a very special place in our hearts.
Other friendships are more recent, and although we like these people immensely, we’re still getting to know one another.
We have friends who belong to specific times and areas of our lives. Maybe we share a hobby, or are passionate about a cause. There are friends-of-friends, colleagues from work and so on.
Friends are not family, but it’s often said they are the family we choose. Why do we pursue some people’s friendship? What makes a good friend?
A person I love very much once said to me, “I may not be many things, but I am a good friend.” And isn’t that where friendship starts; knowing that someone is more than an acquaintance – you call each other: friend.
Friends are loyal, they defend you. They show you that they care in large and small ways. Friends share your joys and sorrows. Friends are equals, although there is rarely equal effort at the same time. For a while, it seems one friend gives more, but then the tables turn… it works out.
Sometimes we make mistakes with our friends; we fail to recognize when an issue is very important. We overstep or assume too much. We let our friend down. This is hard for the friend who dealt the hurt and for the one who’s hurting. There’s a lot of bewilderment… How could she do this? – vs – Why is this so important to her? We don’t understand why or how our friend could fail to understand… Such times are agony. But good friends get through it … one way or another.
Sometimes we are jealous of our friends… just a teensy bit maybe… but it’s there. This must get tramped down and replaced with pride in our friend’s accomplishments. The green-eyed monster has no place in a friendship.
Neither does dishonesty belong within the context of friendship. We need to mean what we say.
Even if we try not to, it is human nature to sometimes be judgmental. Sometimes, there are things we dislike or disapprove of in our friends. But good friends accept one another’s foibles… they help where they can, and they don’t… rub salt into the wounds.
It’s hard to go a long time without seeing close friends. An evening in their stellar company is a gift. And like wine, friendship improves with age… For me, there is nothing more relaxing and enriching than time with a great friend.
Often great friends are quite unalike, but they balance each other out…
I have a wonderful family, but still life would be incomplete without my friends…
A friendship you treasure is very valuable… Today is Valentine’s Day, the day of love and friendship. It’s a good day to let you friends know how you feel.